Anxiety and why we need to talk about it?

Disclaimer: I am not a doctor. It’s just a personal opinion and my effort to shed light on a topic which needs to be discussed.

Anxiety and Depression discussion in India is an understatement. We don’t discuss it like we do other diseases, especially the older generation. In India, mental health is a taboo. If you say, I have health issues that deals with brain and mind, or I am under depression or I am seeing a Psychiatrist, we are immediately labelled as ‘Pagal’ (Mad). Thus, we choose to ignore discussing such topics, or even worse, we ignore to go to a consultant as well, or simply just hide it. However, ignorance is not always bliss.

A recent report by WHO says India is one of the most affected countries in the world. The report conducted for NCMH (National Care of Medical Health) states that atleast 6.5% of the Indian population suffers from mental health disorder. Majority of the patients are young teenagers.

The stigma of having an anxiety disorder is real and it needs to stop.

Anxiety if not handled at the correct hour can lead you to depression, bipolar disorder, multiple personalities and many grievous problems.

So what exactly happens in Anxiety and how to know that you are suffering from it?

Let me start with an example:

I have always been an over thinker and an emotional person. I take things a little too seriously and close to my heart. I could imagine never how overthinking could kill me slowly. I first experienced a pain on my left chest while crying in 2013. I ignored it, thinking that it must be gas.because I had not eaten. It then happened again after two-three months, when I was sad. It then started frequently, if I am sad I would experience that pain. It was until 2017, the pain started to extend from my chest to the left hand. By 2018 early, it was unbearable. I had to stop crying so as to reduce the intensity of pain and finally the time came. I experienced my first Panic Attack in July 2018. It was my worst experience ever. I was breathless, my BP went high, I felt I had a cardiac arrest (and trust me when I say this), my heartbeat increased, and I almost fainted. It was bad. I felt so a weak from Inside for the next two days. Everyone around me was scared, they thought my heart was unhealthy. I undergo multiple checkups and found my heart completely fine. On discussing the symptoms, the doctors recommended me to consult a Psychiatrist.

I normally would complain about multiple health issues like diarrhoea, muscle twitches, zero bladder control, getting tired easily, high BP, increased heart rate, becoming anti-social, left chest and hand ache, excessive sweating, fearfulness, poor concentration, excessive worrying and a few more. They were all so normal that I never thought it was all happening because of this. I was diagnosed with Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD). Doctors were not happy to see how I had managed to ignore all of this for so long. I was asked to take rest and zero stress. I was recommended a tons of medicine. I was in shock and upset. I took a few decisions. I left my job, joined a gym and focused only on myself. I wanted to avoid taking medicines. I changed my eating habit and normal routine. I got multiple sessions in between and eventually have improved a lot.

Now I know how to handle stress and such situations.

If you come around me, I am so vocal and talkative, but I would never discuss how affected I was or am always. Now, I do. I share it with my people and it has helped me for good. My parents would still deny that I suffered from something like this.

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So all my dear readers, please don’t ignore even a tiniest such signal and get checked up at the drop of a hat. Sought help with your friends and family. Don’t Hestiate!

Talk about it and spread awareness. Lately, we have seen a few initiatives around, for example, the LIVE LOVE LAUGH foundation by Deepika Padukone. They are prompt and helpful. I have contacted them whenever needed, and they would listen to all I have to say. India and other countries are still battling with this social stigma. We need to encourage people around us to speak and share. It’s time to get out of the closet and TALK.

Tips I would give from my experience:

  1. Always keep a check on your daily habits. It will help you trace the trigger.
  2. Workout/Run/Yoga. Take care of your health and try to eat clean. Do at least 3-5 times a week.
  3. Avoid foods that spur anxiety. For example Coffee, Alcohol, and Sugar for starters. The list is long.
  4. Avoid things that trigger you for example dark and sad movies or web series. It does wonders.
  5. Try not to be alone. Stay around people.

These are a few changes I had brought in me and have seen the changes. It’s Positive.

Thanks to all of you, who have made it till here. People wondering were was I for all these months, well now you know! All questions answered.

If you wish to talk to me and share your story or fears you can always mail me at shso94929@gmail.com or talk to me over the phone. I would surely help you reach the right place.

Love Love!

See you guys soon!

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Best Gifts For Him (Part 2)

Hey Guys, hello and welcome back to the part 2 of Best Gifts For Him and Her. If you are here for the first time, then my name is Sonali and this blog is a series.  Have a look at this blog too: Best Tech Gifts For Her!!

Also, I know I was away for quite a long time, I had reasons, but no more!

Getting back to the blog, Men needs ALOT of pampering! Be it our friends, partner, daddy, brother or any other guy, they love us and so do we! It’s time now we gift them something they would drool over *_*

Many men around us are tech-savvy guys but it’s time they get gifts with a twist. So let’s get started with the list:

  • The Gamer Guy: Gift him his favorite gaming and entertainment accessory. He would go GaGa. Buy Sony PS4 Pro in the color white here!

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  • The Dog Lover: If he is the one who loves his dog more than anyone else, then you gotta make sure to keep pampering the dog too. Get your hands on this comfortable dog sofa here!

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  • The Fitness Freak: If he is the one who hits the gym every day religiously, then this super road bike is something that will make him go weak on his knees. Buy it here!

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  • The Fashion Fanatic: If he spends more than 30 minutes in front of the mirror for setting his hair and Creach lines, then this perfect dapper suit is the one gift, you should definitely add to your cart and buy for him. Get it here!

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  • The Mountain Monk: If mountains are his second home and all he does is camping and trekking, then how loved would he feel, if you gift him this camouflage trekking backpack.

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  • The Book Worm: This is so amazing. A man who reads is a man who understands women better. Gift him a set of novels, in which he can dwell in for months. My choices are Lord Of the Rings Set and Game Of Thrones Set.

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Apart from the above list, there are so many other options. If he loves watching cricket, then IPL semi-finals & finals are around the corner, Theatre Plays, Music Rock Concerts, Stand-Up Comedy Shows and So much more is happening in your city. Head to BookMyShow now and get the tickets for you two, your family and friends. Surprise him the way you want.

That’s all for this one, see you all very soon! Until then Take Care!

Love Love ❤

A letter to my mother!

Dear Mummy,

I don’t remember the last time you didn’t panic when I told you I am not feeling well. If you were not around me, I couldn’t have completed my school ever. Your “Uthhh jaaaaa….School Nahi Jana??” (“Get Up, Don’t you have school to attend?), is still registered in my mind. The daily drill that started with switching off the fan and ended at “Beta, Tiffin kha lena..” (“Dear, eat the food for sure”) I know we fight a lot, we have our disagreements, but where did I learn all this? Who was my teacher? You are the strongest my mom; you always taught me to take my stand, do what is correct, and never be off guard. You taught me how to speak, walk, eat and all the essential etiquettes. You have no idea how much I love ditching the chopsticks and eating noodles with the fork when I am with you.
When I bruised my knees while playing, you got my first aid done, gave me medicines and injections and a few days later, beat me up over the same. Reason: I should have been careful. Why so innocent Ma? You have in the past, cooked all my favourite foods, and taught me to do the same. Today, I proudly cook your recipes and my friends go wow on tasting them!!

From the first day to my school till today, It’s tough for me to leave you every time. I don’t tell you often, but I miss you too much. Anyone cannot fill your absence. Mum, it’s always fun to sit with you and talk nonsense, while you give that heavenly champi to me. I love it when you gossip about the other aunties. Our hourly phone calls, discussing your fav characters from serials, is unbeatable. I love it when you call me to ask your Whatsapp, Facebook and Instagram issues. I love it how you go cray-cray for burgers, pizzas, french fries and all that junk.

Our fights have many times started over a pizza slice, have continued to me asking you to change your thinking and ended at you throwing one of the household stuff on my face. Gosh, I love God for giving me, you!

Mummy, you are the best, you are the chef, the babysitter, family caretaker, finance manager, counsellor, teacher, advisor. You are cute, tough, lovable, naïve yet experienced. You are the Champion, the Pillar. You have kept us all together. Today, what we are, who we are, we owe it to you, I owe it to you.

Every day can be a mother’s day, but this day is just a little extra special.

In no words, I can define my infinite love and respect for you.

Love You!

Best Tech Gifts For Her (Part 1)

Heyyy Guys, how are you all?? Fine, No? Good, No? Super Awesome, Yeah? Great!! So Today’s blog is all about what tech gifts should be in your IT-List for your Beau, BFF, Partner, Mother, or any other female you would want to pamper. Also, there are two parts to this blog. This is part 1, the other part is ‘For Him’, but boys ladies first, right!

So I have compiled my top 10 tech choices in the list below. They are all in vogue, chicest gifts and in your budget. The list is a mix of the trendiest and latest updates of the tech market, perfect for all the occasions. I have attached the link to all the products so that you can add them to your cart and gift wrap it immediately. So let’s get started with it.

1. Amazon Fire TV Stick: Connect this to your TV and binge watch all your favourite Hollywood, Bollywood, and Regional Movies. Listen to songs, watch web series and so much more. Now enjoy the world of online entertainment here.

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2. Amazon Echo Dot: Fill your room with immersive audio and groove on your favourite beats. Control with your voice and enjoy your day here.

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3. Apple Watch: Could there be a more smart gift? Who would not love the latest Apple Watch Series 3!! Swoop your lady off her feet with this surprise. Buy it here.

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4. Fitbit: A perfect gift for your fitness freak women. This season make sure that she stays healthy and fit with this smart wearable. Buy it here.

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5. Power Bank: For your mobile buff, who just cannot stop using her phone. The perfect gift is here.

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6. Action Camera: This one is to create and retain the travel or daily memories for your gadget freak girl. The GoPro Action Camera is your best shot in the Market. Buy it here.

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7. Wireless Bluetooth headphones: Let her travel in style with comfort. This pair of Sennheiser headphones offers you exceptional sound for everyday music listening on mobile devices. Buy it here.

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8. HP Sprocket Photo Printer: The cutest and handiest of all. This pretty tech gift is gonna make her smile ear to ear. They come in different colors and will fit in her bag. Buy this compact printer here.

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9. Polaroid camera: Shoot and Obtain. These peppy polaroid cameras come in candy colors and are super awesome. All you need to do is adjust, click and print. get instant photos for your walls here.

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10. Phone Covers: Yes, you can gift her this too. There are so many stylish, chich, quirky designs out there. All you got to do is order them right away 🙂

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Gift her a special gift on an occasion or just make her simple day special with these extraordinary gestures.

Image Courtesy- Amazon India and Google Images

That’s all for today guys, hope you liked it.

You can read my previous blog here.

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Tadaaa until we meet next!!! Love Love!! :*

The Touch Of Your Love – A Short Poem

I wake up, my eyes flickering,
sunlight gleaming, on to my face,
I twinkle, my face crease,
I turn and wrap my self under that satin sheet,
I slide in my hands on to my body,
running continuously from my waist to the breasts,
it’s the touch of your love that I feel,
my lips twitch, and eyes flutter,
a cold wind flicked my bare shoulders, as my body shivers,
It’s the touch of your love that gives me the chills.
I look outside the window, sunkissed, I soak in the heat,
my hair in a tangled mess, and the heart skipping its beat.
My stomach tickles by the idea of you, it’s been so long,
but still anew.
It’s the touch of your love that I feel myself.
As I caress my body and fondle my soul,
it’s the touch of your love that I believe in love!

-sonali

 

Sketch By Me, Written By Me.

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Dear Woman – Never Stop

Happy Women’s Day All You Ladies out there! This women’s day I am here to share a message with all of you. The message is to NEVER STOP.

  • Never Stop moving forward.
  • Never Stop because someone else wants you to.
  • Never Stop loving yourself.
  • Never Stop they think you can’t.
  • Never Stop taking your own stand.
  • Never Stop embracing yourself for who you are.
  • Never Stop being the best version of you.
  • Never Stop because you don’t see a solution.

Always Stay Healthy and Fit, Eat Fine and Laugh like there is no Tomorrow.

Do what makes you feel YOU, Just Breathe.

A while ago I created four posts thread on my Instagram wall called #NeverStop Series.

  1. Don’t Let Anyone Ever Dull Your Sparkle. (1/5)

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2. Love Your Body and Teach Your Mind to Respect it. Stay Comfortable in Your Own Skin. (2/5)

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3. I am who I am. Not who you think I am. Not who you want me to be. I am me. (3/5)

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4. “I am under no obligation to make sense to you. Always stay fierce!” (4/5)

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5. To the divine mischievous spark in you.. (5/5)

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Happy Women’s Day!! Cheers to all the beautiful ladies!! Love Love!

Hair and Makeup Artist – Self and Photography – Self

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MUST READ – A LETTER TO ALL THOSE WHO ARE HUMANS

How easy is it to torture someone? How easy is it to blackmail someone? How easy is it to make a person’s life hell? How easy is it to take advantage of someone’s situation? To harass someone? To hit someone? To leak someone’s personal information?

VERY EASY I Guess!

Every day we come across various cases of violence – mental or physical. The victim of such circumstances can be a girl, boy, man or a woman.

Recently, I met someone who was a constant bully of home violence. She was beaten up on a regular basis. She is not allowed to step outside without permission. He’s an Insecure Pig.

Another one got choked by a man for taking a stand for herself and her life. He’s on a heartbreak cycle.

One more is getting harassed by a man. This man keeps uploading her private images to the great world wide web. And he thinks he is brilliant. He’s on a revenge cycle.

One girl was forced into prostitution. He was on some other trip.

Let me clear, here by chance all the victims are women, but I have seen men victims too.

Also, this letter does not intend to hurt anyone’s feeling, emotions, culture, cast, creed, nor does it offend any particular gender.

While I came across all of the above cases, the victims had one thing in common – they were being weak. They cried when they were saying what happened/ is happening to them.

I am not saying crying is bad. Please go ahead and vent it all out. But do not self-pity, do not think that you are weak, do not feel that no one will understand, do not believe that you cannot take a step, do not think that there is no door to get out of this.

My dear victim,

I pity your situation. I feel bad. I want to take you out of that position. But I and my actions will help you out only if, you take your stand. I know it takes a lot of guts to face the family, friends and the world and to love oneself. But if there is anyone who can help you at an initial stage is YOU.

So cutting it short, please take stand for yourself, rest will follow. Sitting and crying over your miserable life won’t help anyone. Rather it will give the satan – more courage to continuing doing such stuff.

My Dear Wrongdoer/Sinner,

Yes, you got me right if you are reading this. If you beat someone up, or harass anyone or continuously do something that’s against the law. It’s wrong and unlawful. You are satan. You might be an insecure pig, or a person out on revenge, or heartbroken, or any x y z.. nothing ever gives you right to intrude and invade and mentally or physically harass someone. You do such things and then try to justify your actions. Trust me it’s of no use.

This is an open letter to all of you out there. Please take stand for yourself. It’s high time you, me and everyone else to stand for someone who needs it and for yourself. Wheather you know or do not know a person it doesn’t matter, helping someone out in a time of misery won’t make you feel bad. Stop thinking about how to save your ass, instead let’s all get together and take action against such pigs.

Here I am not asking you to please like or share this post. I request you all to spread this word. To not let anyone be a victim of violence and harassment. Some people need a push to gather courage. Be that push!

Motivation Behind This Letter: The one with the revenge feels. A jerk who has been continuously creating a fake Instagram profile under someone’s name and misusing/mishandling the account. And we are taking a stand against this one. WILL YOU?

What I Wore – Convocation 2018

Hey, there all you lovelies!! Welcome to my page. This blog is about a day in my life, and it’s a short one. But before I start, thank you all of you for showering me with appreciations and love for my last blog – Road Trip To Munnar.

Last weekend I was in Jaipur – The ‘Gulabi’ City. Why was I there – For My Convocation. It was a fun-filled, less sleep three day trip to Jaipur with friends who are family. It’s not a travel blog because I went there just to chill. (more…)

18 Things To Do In 2018 <3

18 Things To Do In 2018

Hello All of You!! We are in the last week of the year. It’s time we promise to our self a lot of things. But I have curated a list of 18 things or maybe just habit changes, which you can teach yourself. These changes are so basic that one must do it. No matter it’s what time and date. Some of you might be doing these points already, but here is my take on this: (more…)

DIY CHRISTMAS CARD AT HOME 

Olaa Guys!! Christmas is in the neighbourhood and we are all prepping up for it. In the midst of these holidays and party preparations, I think it is time you wake that creative kid of you.
Receiving a handmade gift from someone is Novelty these days. Homemade things have something extraordinary about them. So while you can quickly go over to some http://www.xyz.com, add something to your cart, and proceed towards payment, how about indulging in some fun activity and create something yourself?? Sounds fun right?? It is!!

So Yesterday, which was Sunday, I took out some time from my daily routine and made this so pretty and beautiful two-fold card for my friends, colleagues and families in hardly one hour.

Here is how you can make one too:

1. Get up, and go to Market.
2. Enter a Super Market, or a Stationary Shop, or Craft Shop.
3. Get hold of a good quality chart papers or A3/A2 size paper.
4. Choose any color that you are ready to play with. I chose yellow, pink and white!!
5. Don’t forget to buy any of these if you do not have them at home:
– sketch pens,
– color pencils,
– marker,
– scissors,
– sparkle sheets & pen
– fevistick / glue
– nutella (you will need it for your stomach to come up with some ideas) (this is optional)
6. Now sit down, and start cutting the paper of your preferred shape & size, mine is a rectangle.
7. I made two rectangles, white and yellow, white rectangle slightly larger in length horizontally.
8. Now cut merry Xmas or Christmas as per your choice from the chart paper of your fav font style. I chose white for this.
9. Decorate the card as much and more you want, and be as creative as you can be. Fill in the first page; it is your canvas.
10. For the inside layer, I put small stripes in two different colors, in a triangle shape, made a little tree and hat for the Christmassy feel.
11. Voila, my card is ready and so is yours!!
12. You can stitch or stick the two layers.
13. Flaunt this card in front of everyone and bring smile and happiness to faces.